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I think you have my viewpoint confused.I didn't chauffer my husband nor was I his daycare worker, he didn't pay me for that nor was I paid for doing that for our kids. He paid me because when I made the decision to stay at home, I lost my income. And since normally we have others do those tasks for us, when I took on that responsibility (of my own choosing of course), I needed to be paid just as we would have paid someone else to do it had I been working.Like I said above, this is the typical female argument when it comes to this area. They say, I'm a chef, a cleaning lady, a chauffer, a day care worker, etc etc. Therefore according to my calculations I do sixty jobs which means I make $10 million/year, so really the guy owes me that much money.?
So if you're doing 60 million jobs and not being paid, that's just dumb IMHO. And if you're doing those things for some "guy" and not a spouse/fiance', then that's stupid as hell.
I realized now that this conversation is a bit over your head and that not only have you probably NOT been in a serious relationship, but almost certainly never married. Why don't you sit down and let the grown folks continue to have this conversation.So if that's the case, can the guy fire you if he wants? And hire someone else? And can he tell you to do something when he wants? That, after all, is the definition of "working" in that role
Just becasue your Momy fed you ramen noodles, spaghetti, and ravoli on a regular basis, don't assume everyo ther mother does the same. I used the term because I've taken a cooking class or 2 and I don't serve dinner, I present it (when I did cook, I don't have much time these days). Thus the term Chef is clearly warrented here.I'm not saying that what you do has no value. Far from it. But let's not go overboard and act like you "are a chef." Come on. That's like saying wives give Tylenol and Band-aids to their sick child so they're all doctors.
In a sense they are. I've literally saved my duaghter's life twice after a doctors screwed up andif you talk to any involved mother, you'll haer the same thing. However, I think you're confusing the term Wife with Motherhood perhaps because you're one of those Mama's boys who hasn't cut the cord yet.That's like saying wives give Tylenol and Band-aids to their sick child so they're all doctors.
I'm congratulating women for refusing to be some dudes doormat. Women who aren't afraid to assert themselves against societies antiquated views on motherhood/career/relationships, SHOULD be given a pat on the back. Or maybe a pat on the a$$, NBA style!My simple point is that I find it all odd because you're all in the mentality of winning some battle with your spouses and boyfriends and congratulating each other for winning. When did it get to that?